Parenting Teens Living in an Anxious World

Think about the world 13-18 year olds are living in. Images are viewable 24/7 on social media to compare with the figure reflected in one’s own mirror. Models aren't the only ones with nearly perfect airbrushed photos, filters abound to give personal pictures a digital makeover before hitting post. If the comparison game isn’t enough to stir anxiety, there’s no ignoring just how bad the world is. The Bible gives a theology of a corrupt world, but devices and apps give a front row seat to horrible events in real time around the world.

It’s likely no surprise anxiety disorders in children and teens increased 20% between 2007 and 2012 and that 1 in 3 teens will experience symptoms of a diagnosable anxiety disorder. And this was all the case before a global pandemic rocked the world and the economy took a hit. It's difficult to dismiss the findings, teens are living in an increasingly anxious world.

So what do parents and others working with teens do with these insights? Here are few suggestions:

1. Remember, there is nothing new under the sun (Ecclesiastes 1:3). Perhaps teens are more anxious, but their anxiety is nothing new. Don’t be sucked into feeling like these problems are uniquely overwhelming or impossible to deal with.

2. Express your love, even when they don’t want it. (1 Corinthians 13:1-13). Don’t smother them, but just because they aren’t begging for bedtime stories and snuggles doesn’t mean they don’t need you. Find out what they enjoy and show an interest in it. Have a device free time to talk or do an activity together. Lean in when they pull away.

3. Don’t provoke them (Ephesians 6:4). Take a “time-out” yourself if needed. Return to the conversation when you’re able to better manage your own thoughts and emotions.

4. Create healthy boundaries with electronic devices. Educate yourself about various forms of media to determine what your child can manage developmentally at their age and maturity level. Seek to model healthy use of devices and media consumption.

5. Trust God and take 1 day at a time (Matthew 6:28-34). Parents are human too. You will get overwhelmed, you will not do everything perfectly, and it will feel impossible at times. Know God is steady and able to overcome anything. Seek to follow him today and trust him with tomorrow.